A reader turned online friend sent me a message early this week. (I am blogging this with her permission.) She wanted to ask me for advice, and couldn't talk about it with her friends as they don't know her secret lifestyle.
Secret lifestyle?
All I know is she's intelligent, beautiful, and a constant traveler (perks of her job).
She added that her last boyfriend (a Filipino and a former co-worker) cheated on her, and that was almost 5 years ago. From that time on, she never let herself fall for another guy again.
However, she still meet with men in all her travels. But she also sleeps with them.
Oh! This is her secret life!
Ayayay!
"You mean you sleep with men in different countries, with different nationalities? You're a flag collector?"
"What do you mean? You mean hook-ups?"
"Well, yes, but yours is flag collecting. You sleep with men in every country you go to!"
"Oh?! That's what it is called?!"
"You're not scared to get sick of STD?"
"Mother Lili (long time readers call me by this name), that's why I want your input. Your opinion. I don't like it anymore. I want a relationship---a long lasting one like yours."
"I met a guy in Thailand. He's Filipino. I really think he likes me too--like a lot!" she added.
"What makes you think he likes you?"
"He spends time with me when I am in Thailand."
"That's nice."
"He really gives me attention. But since I earn way more than him, I pay for our trips. We are exclusively dating for close to 4 months already."
"You mean you pay for everything?"
Uh oh!
"Dear, stop going to Thailand. You mostly go there for him, and I think he's not worth it."
I really don't want to tell her this. Honestly.
"Sorry, he doesn't love you!" I added.
"Mother, NOOO! I really like him."
"Dear, what you have with him is not a relationship. It will never be. Do you know what it is called?"
"But I'd like to think that what we have is promising."
"A relationship is different from a business transaction. Yours is the latter."
P.S. The guy always asks for expensive pairs of sneakers every time she travels to America. Uh oh!
3 comments:
Good advice you gave. He will just bleed her dry.
She better stop meeting that guy as soon as she still has whole self and no signs of psychological abuse yet. The guy is taking advantage of her vulnerability and the feeling of being needed and wanted by someone.
You are right that many sweetest talkers are like vultures. Good that your alerted your friend.
Flag collectors??? Muahahahaha
This is funny.
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